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Michael Shaules
Clarivoiant Life Coach
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Dealing with Fear
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Probably the most difficult thing to overcome is dealing with your fear. Once you understand what it is, it is not hard to learn how to dissipate the feeling. Fear is the basic emotional (spirit) belief that you can not emotionally handle a particular situation. I learned that if I used an affirmation using this formula: I don't know if I can emotionally handle _______________ happening, that I could lessen and eventually change the feeling of being able to handle something.
When you first start to use this technique it can feel daunting, Most people have trained themselves to use various techniques to avoid the pains that we hold inside. It seems counter intuitive to affirm the fear but what you are really doing first is getting in touch with the feeling. Then you start dissipating the emotional energy not dealt with in the past, then changing the belief that you can't deal with the situation.
When using the affirmation have an attitude of saying it to a good friend, one that you can trust. As you start to do this the feeling will actually feel stronger and seem like the wrong thing to do. Continue to affirm it, you are just really getting in touch with it. There may be a period where you may feel overwhelmed by the feeling but keep going, it will eventually start to feel less and less daunting. Once the feelings of fear diminish it will be easier for you to look at the belief systems
at the core of it. The very interesting fact that I found with this technique was that it allowed the intellect to be more in touch with the emotional side and there is a great deal of processing and changes that go on when you can connect the two more effectively.
MEDITATION
The single most important tool you can have had at your disposal is meditation. My definition of meditation is the ability to focus on one thing for an extended period of time. Personally I had read books on meditation that had passages like "imagine the peel of an orange" well I eventually gave up because my mind kept racing.
I had been using affirmations for some time and had discovered that I could use that little talking voice in my head that we all have to repeat my affirmations while doing things that didn't require 100% of my focus like watching TV or driving. I will never forget the day that I realized I could keep focused on one thing for an extended period of time, I had stumbled on learning how to meditate. Initially this really scared me, uh oh, all of a sudden I was faced with the fact that
I could now stop the racing in my head and had to face what I was running from, I am happy to report that I made it just fine <G>
I have a specific process that I use when I meditate. I have gotten very good at taking whatever uncomfortable feeling I am dealing with and being able to vent it quickly and effectively. When I first started meditating I used affirmations of how I was feeling to dissipate the uncomfortable aspects of what I was dealing with. As I perfected my meditation techniques I realized I could actually just focus on the uncomfortable feeling itself and have the feelings quickly vent and I felt much better faster. It is important when you are attempting to dissipate feelings that you have an attitude of trust. As if you were telling your best friend your greatest problems. After I manage to get relief from the intense feelings I can then put the opposite picture that I want, and feel like I actually already have it. You are literally reprogramming yourself.
If you are having problems getting in touch with your feelings you might want to take a step back emotionally and try to get a larger picture. When dealing with your issues you have to be able to really feel and deal with them. Most people have defense systems built up where pain is involved. So you may have feelings of inadequacy of some sort but in order to feel better at some point you may have developed the attitude of refusing to deal with it. Or hating the feelings themselves. So step back, see how you are feeling about dealing with the issue. If you find that there is some sort of resistance you can dissipate those feeling just as easily by venting the feelings of not wanting to deal with it. This will be necessary to do to access the emotions you are wanting to deal with.
You can learn that fear can not hurt you. That you have the ability to learn past any fear. Only freedom and fulfillment await you on your path of self discovery. You do have what it takes.
